“This is true, but requires a serious caution: Don’t keep putting off decisions ’til later. It is easy, when you’re young, to think of the future as unlimited. Deadlines come and go, and opportunities are missed. Take your time, but don’t be reckless about it. You will make some wrong decisions, too. Better to make them early when there’s time to recover.” —u/Ryclea “There is also no ‘perfect time’ for many big life events — and we humans are nothing if not adaptable. Studying, traveling, being in relationships, and even having kids can all be learned on the go, and waiting for the stars to align can leave you without instead.” —u/pygmy 3) Drink water even if you also drink soda and other unhealthy stuff. A good rule is to have one glass of each on your desk and switch back and forth so you don’t feel deprived of the drinks you want. 4) Learn to communicate with your partner. Arguments will happen. Screaming at each other and calling names is not an argument, it’s verbal abuse. An argument is both of you expressing how you feel about your situation and what resolution you each want, then debating both sides and figuring out what to do. If you can’t agree, leave it on the table and come back to it later. If you’re getting angry or nervous, tell your partner you need to step away and calmly leave the room. 30s is far too old to be doing immature shit like slamming doors and stomping. 5) If you think you’re depressed, have PTSD, autism, etc., figure out your possible options for assessment. The sooner the better. No one likes hearing bad news, but you need that information, and people who care about you do, too." —u/CuriousRelish “All that really matters is now. You cannot change what happened. You can change what you do today, which will lead you to tomorrow. Whatever your age, a better life can begin today. Seek therapy, take up that hobby you are interested in, and stop the addiction you feel is holding you back. Reflection on the past is only useful to move forward today.” —u/korinth86 “This, and start your retirement account as early as possible. It SUCKS spending below your means. It SUCKS watching all your friends buy cool things and go on cool trips while you just watch some numbers in an account go up. It SUCKS right up until it doesn’t, and then, it’s one of the best feelings in the world. A couple of years down the road when you look at the retirement account and it has $20k in it, you’ll think to yourself: WHOA. When your savings hit $10k and you don’t have to sweat that cool $500 purchase that just came up because you have a routine of putting that money away for savings, you’ll feel really good. And then, your income probably starts to rise, and now you have good financial habits, you’re safe and secure when it comes to your bills, you have less stress — and as you’ve advanced at your job and career, you start to be able to afford even cooler things than you missed out on when you were younger because what you didn’t realize is all your friends who you were trying to keep up with were either going into debt or spending money that wasn’t theirs in other ways. But now, you’re doing it all on your own within your means.” —u/These-Ordinary-3744 Start a Roth IRA and contribute the maximum every year. Make this your number one financial priority. Compound interest is AMAZING. Also, an S&P 500 index fund will outperform managed funds given time. Live in more than one place if possible. Someone who is nice to you and rude to others, especially wait staff, is not worth your time. Don’t be afraid to cut off relationships. Talk to people before you do, but if you can’t talk to someone about what they are doing that bothers you, it’s a bad sign. Make sure you are capable of being alone for extended periods. If you’re not, understand why and maybe do something about it." —u/FreakyBlueEyes “‘Other people’s opinions of you are none of your business.’ Once I really started taking that to heart, I became a lot happier.” —u/vk2786 6) Be kind. It makes you and everyone around you better people. 7) Get to know what a bad or toxic relationship looks like and how to work on it/leave it. Emotions can be extra intense when you’re young, so leaving toxic situations can feel even harder, but sometimes, stepping away is the only option." —u/Lauralaurs
